Saturday, October 31, 2015
I didn't know if it was nice manners to refer to ladies undergarments in a public blog. My late grandma called panties skivvies. I figured if it was okay for Grandma...
You've heard the expression..."I need to put on my big girl (insert preferred term for ladies undergarments)". It is used to encourage ourselves or others to do any number of the following:
1. Grow up and act like an adult.
2. Take the bull by the horns (so to speak) and attempt something you are dreading.
3. Move on from a trying situation and make the best of it.
4. Grow up and act like an adult.
"Adulting" (a term I have heard more and more of) is hard work. With it comes responsibility and maturity. We have to do things that are hard, painful and mostly unrewarding.
Often it involves us biting our tongues, taking the high road, pushing ourselves and taking chances.
Putting on those Big Girl Skivvies and pushing ahead can be challenging. But (and this is a big one) it is something you HAVE to do if you want to live a beautiful and meaningful life.
So here is something I want you to do right now. Write down one thing that is troubling you. Or challenging you. Or making things difficult for you and your loved ones.
Think hard about this one. Is it something that is a surface issue or just a symptom of a larger problem?
Now look at what you have written down and put it in PERSPECTIVE.
You might be experiencing an agonizing, heart wrenching season in your life. Sometimes it is hard to put that in perspective when you are the middle of it. A mature person recognizes that those periods in our lives are to honored and mourned. But that there has to be some sort of moving on process. You might be still in the grieving stage. That still does not mean that you cannot rejoice and give thanks for those blessings you still see around you.
What about relationship issues? I have been married for 24 years. I ADORE my husband. However, we are not perfect people. There have been private and painful periods of our marriage that I don't share. They aren't to be dwelled upon. If I could name a thousand faults in The Muffin's life, he could name a thousand in mine. My perspective is that I have a healthy husband to stand by my side. We have WORKED hard on our relationship and I recognize my place in it. My desire is to encourage, to be his cheerleader. I also have to recognize my own responsibility to make it work. I am not to fix him. And who I am to suggest he needs fixing?
I also want to make sure that I don't make generalizations about every relationship. I only know what has worked for us.
Maybe you are struggling financially. I hear ya'! Here is a little perspective. The Muffin and I have come to this peaceful answer in our finances. God is in control. Most of our problems are 1st World Country problems. The screw and nail in my tire. I need a whole new set of tires and frankly, a new car. Here is the perspective. I have wheels. They aren't reliable wheels, but they are wheels. If I have to change my plans, not drive as often...then that is the way it must be. My minuscule grocery budget allows me to be creative and resourceful. It is more than most people have across the world. We have lost houses, health and eeked out an existence in our materialistic world. What we have learned is that while it is nice to have...it's not necessary for happiness. God is our provider. He has always given us what we needed.
I have to remind myself daily of where I have been and what God has seen me through. Having a healthy perspective makes the difference.
What about ATTITUDE?
I hesitate to even bring this one up, but it's a must. We can't go through life pitching a fit every time something doesn't go our way. We can't say what we want or act out with no concern for those around us.
Basically. We have to grow up.
I am going to leave it there.
Putting on those Big Girl Skivvies also requires the ability to GROW.
Sometimes growing up is painful. When I was a little girl I would have awful growing pains. My legs would ache at night. I would toss and turn and curse my Dad's tall genes. It must have worked. I only got to 5"4.
Growing up also requires correction. I don't know anybody who loves to be corrected. A few days ago, I overheard a conversation between a nurse and a teacher. I wasn't intentionally eaves dropping, but I was sitting next to them so it was kind of hard to miss. Both of them are responsible for education of young people (the nurse works with student nurses). They were lamenting the fact that their students are unable to take critiques with any kind of grace or introspection.
Can I tell you that our society has a problem with this? We HAVE to be right. We don't like anyone pointing out weaknesses (who are you to tell me...). While I believe that you need to let people be themselves, we also have to respect authority and those who are given charge over us.
If we can't learn...we can't grow.
I have had to receive correction concerning my health. I am capable of living in my own little dream world. There is something about my psyche that can escape to a "happy place" and just deal with it.
Sometimes we need tough love. My tough love reminded me that I needed to be healthy for my son. I couldn't let the challenges before me dictate what I do for myself.
What kind of tough love are we ignoring for the sake of pride?
So take another look at what you have written down.
Let's talk about the "move on" part about the title of my post. Are you stuck? Maybe you feel like you are taking steps in the right direction, but you constantly find yourself in reverse.
Here is where I get to pull my favorite numbering trick. You might find something in my advice that helps you move on.
1. Have patience. Have you heard the expression that Rome wasn't built in a day? Well, neither can a person find that place of maturity and self-acceptance overnight. You are going to have ups and downs. Ins and outs. Good days and bad days. Just do what you know how to do (do the best you can).
2. Develop good habits. I have set a goal for myself in the area of productivity. I want my mornings to be more productive. I hate feeling like I never get anything done. It makes me feel ineffective. I found it helpful to do a little bit of reading about how other ladies get things done. However, here is a word of caution. Don't try and overhaul your life at one time. Take babysteps. Good habits happen over a period of time. They can't be called into existence.
3. Just do something. Discontentment is a big joy sucker. We can wallow in self-pity (I'm the queen) for quite some time. If we are not careful it becomes part of who we are. The best defense against this is to JUST DO SOMETHING! Not satisfied with your house? Make it more homey by displaying things that you love and mean something to you and your family. It's the people in the home that matter. Feel like you want to do something different with your life? Consider taking a class. If that is not an option, immerse yourself in learning a new hobby. When Josiah was much younger, I decided I needed to have an outlet outside the church (my husband is a pastor). It was one of the best decisions I ever made. I joined a "writing" club. I started volunteering with a children's theatre.
4. Practice the art of forgiveness. Ouchie. This can be tough. However, it is vital that we forgive those hurtful words and deeds that have come against us. Sometimes people are just thoughtless. Sometimes they are incapable of mature thought (they haven't learned to pull up their Big Girl Skivvies). We can't dwell in those dark spots. Unforgiveness can hold on to a person with black, vicious claws. It dictates our every move and every thought. It keeps us stuck. Maturity (and The Bible) tells us to pray for those who persecute us.
5. Be Kind. Here is my last little thought (and you all said.."well, thank goodness for that!). It is discouraging to get online and see all of us fussing at each other. This one gets made at that one. This one is offended by that one. Then we have those who always seem to be complaining. We don't respect one another's feelings, convictions and actions. We need to start behaving like the people momma raised us to be (or needed to raise us to be).
Thursday, October 29, 2015
They were all so easy to whip up. Using my Ninja, I made each sauce ahead of time and put each one in a refrigerator container to let all those flavors meld together. The Yum Yum Sauce particularly needs time to sit.
This one was The Muffin's favorite. You can control the heat with the amount of chipolte peppers you add.
I also made The Muffin a couple of Meatball sandwiches. I stuck 3 in a whole wheat hot dog bun, covered them with a little provolone and baked them for just a bit. Then I smothered the whole thing with the Honey Mustard Sauce.
He was a fan. Check out the okra pickles. They were just hanging out in my Mom and Dad's food cellar waiting to be taken home. I don't think they canned any this year. I might have to sneak a few more jars in my purse before it's all over. We take okra pickles seriously around here.
This was an EASY dish to whip up. For an extra special presentation I used the chalkboard for a little encouragement and grabbed one of Josiah's football buys from his room. Not that my boys were that impressed. They were more interested in scarfing down the food. Can you imagine?
As promised here are the recipes I used.
Turkey Meatballs: 1 pound of ground turkey, 1 egg, 1/4 cup of oats, 1 clove of garlic, 1/8 cup chopped parsley, salt and pepper. Mix everything together and form balls. Place meatballs on cookie sheet and bake for 15 minutes at 375. (I just threw everything in my Ninja and whipped them up)
Just a little aside about the meatballs. I usually add 1/4 cup of Parmesan cheese to my meatballs. I was completely out of my parm! I also like a little sage or thyme instead of the parsley...you can use dry herbs. Just add a teaspoon or so.
Yum Yum Sauce: 1 small container of Chobani Plain Greek Yogurt, 3 T of sweetener (you can use sugar if that's your thing), 3 T of rice wine vinegar, 2 T of melted butter, 1 tsp. of smoked paprika, 1 minced garlic clove. Mix everything together and store in refrigerator as long as you can stand it. It is especially yummy the next day.
Spicy Chipolte Sauce: 1 small container of Chobani Plain Greek Yogurt, 1 or 2 chipolte peppers, 2-3 T of lime juice, 1 minced garlic clove, dash of salt. Throw everything in a food processor (or the like). Whip up until pretty.
Honey Mustard Sauce: 1 small container of Chobani Plain Greek Yogurt, 2 T of spicy mustard, 2-3 T of honey. That's it! Make sure you taste it. Mine needed a little more honey.
So that's about it. Enjoy! Go check out more healthy yummies you can make with Chobani yogurt. They have tons of recipes on their site. There are several I thought looked delish...including a Cranberry Orange Bread I'm thinking about adding to my holiday recipe list. My favorite Apple Cake uses yogurt so I'm sure it will be a hit!
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
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Tuesday, October 27, 2015
Saturday, October 24, 2015
I want to share just a few things with you today.
First of all, last year I reviewed Countdown to Thanksgiving: Memory Making Stories & Activities for 14 Days Leading Up to Thanksgiving. by Amy Puetz (Golden Prairie Press). I so enjoyed using it in the month of November. I am pulling it out again this year.
What I need to tell you is that Amy will be having a sale on the book, October 26-November 6. You can purchase the book either in printed booik or in an e-book.
It is really a precious resource.
In addition to getting my November homeschool resources rounded up, I beginning to gather materials for our Blessing Tree.
|This was from a couple of years ago...It was pretty pitiful looking.|
I had thought about switching it up this year and using sticks, berries and other fall wildflowers to make an arrangement for the table. My niece gathered me a bunch last weekend. I thought we could hang little cardboard tags on burlap from the branches with our blessings written out.
You would have thought I suggested banning any reference to the NFL from our house. Josiah insists we carry on our yearly tradition with paper tree in the hall.
I think, however, I still will put a twist on it by using some mixed media leaves.
Good Grief! Who knew that a teenage boy would care so much about a paper tree!
November is also Josiah's birthday! In fact, it is the day after Thanksgiving. We will be spending the holiday with the in-laws this year (my in-laws :<). He's already requested a football birthday featuring one of his favorite teams (yet to be determined).
He is going to be 14!! WAAAAAA!
In the next few weeks we will be taking his birthday pictures while the leaves are still pretty (and on the trees).
Have a marvelous weekend!