Today I (along with The Muffin) am celebrating 22 years of
wedded bliss. That’s a lot of years.
Especially considering I was only 12 when I got married.
Actually, I was 19. When means I was practically a baby.
2 years ago (on our 20thth wedding anniversary) I
shared with you just a thoughts on Mawage.
We interrupt this
blog post for a quote from one of my favorite movies, The Princess Bride.
Mawage. Mawage is wot
bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a
dweam… And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva… So tweasure your wuv.
Ha! Classic! I am snorting as I type. Thank you for indulging
me.
Anyhoo. Back to matter at hand. Here is my words…straight
from that particular blog post. I tried to improve on my original words, but just couldn't. I still feel the same way.
1. You can't be
married for 20 years and not develop some pretty groovy insight. My advice to
young couples. IT'S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU! Sometimes it's just about keeping
your mouth shut and being a supportive spouse. You don't have to tell all you
know.
2. Sometimes the best
thing that you can do for your marriage is having hobbies and interests all
your own. One person is never going to meet all of your needs. Only God can
accomplish that. It is unfair and unrealistic
to ask your spouse to be all things to you. And it puts quite a bit of
pressure on the relationship.
3. That being said, be
sure to make time to spend time together. Even if you have to schedule the
time. And it's not always going to be dinner out. Or weekends away. I think
we've fallen for these commercialized images of what "Romance" should
look like. Be creative. Some of my favorite times have been just microwave
popcorn and a movie at home.
4. I am a pretty
private person. I realize that's hard to believe. After all, I have a public
blog. But when I am stressed or overwhelmed I tend to withdraw into myself.
Some days, If you knew half of what I really thought you would be the first to
recommend me for commitment to the nearest facility (as to what facility...take
your pick...I'm still waiting for the day when someone commits me to the
nearest spa). It is important for me to have an outlet to express myself other
than taking it out on my family. I have had experiences that no one else can
really understand...a lot of us have. However, it's not healthy to wrap
ourselves up self-pity and assume that because of that no one really cares. In
fact, it can be deadly to all of your relationships.
I want to add one more
thing little thought this year. And I need to add it with a confession. I haven’t
always been really good at this. Ashamedly.
5. This year I am striving to treat my husband like the
wonderful gift he is. Trust me. There are days that I would rather focus on the
things that irritate me. Maybe he doesn’t always act like the “wonderful gift”
I think he should be. Nevertheless, I want him to feel like he is treasured.
After all, I am not that great of catch myself some days. There are days when I
am whiney (who me?), demanding and just plain hard to live with. But when it is
all said and done, I want him to know I am on his side.
Happy Anniversary to the Bestest Guy I know!
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